Why Does My Cat Lick My Face?

by Jeanne Legault
(Seattle WA)

How Do I Get Him to Stop?

My dearest Maine Coon, Biscuit, used to do this wonderful thing of getting on top of me, putting his paws around my neck and nuzzling my neck with his head.

However, in the last couple of months, this has turned into licking my face (OUCH!).

I put my hand in place, but he is determined to get to my face (he licks our other 2 cats, so I take this as a compliment!).

I don't want to hurt his feelings or hurt our bond, but is there a kind-hearted way to get him to stop?

Thanks!

Reply:
Hi Jeanne, Biscuit is such a sweetheart! I love that he wraps his paws around your neck for a cuddle - what a loving boy.

It makes perfect sense that you’d want to find a way to gently discourage his new habit of licking your face without hurting his feelings.

Cats lick for many reasons, and in Biscuit’s case, it’s likely an affectionate gesture - after all, he licks your other cats, too! But as cute as it is, a rough tongue on sensitive skin can be a bit much.

The good news is that you can redirect this behavior in a kindhearted way while still keeping your special bond intact.

Let’s go over why he might be doing this and how you can encourage a different (and less ouchy!) way for him to show his love.

Why Do Cats Lick Faces?

Biscuit’s face-licking is likely coming from a place of love. In the cat world, mutual grooming (allogrooming) is a big deal - it’s how bonded cats show affection and strengthen their connection.

Since he licks your other cats, it makes sense that he sees you as part of his inner circle, too!

But why the sudden change from nuzzling to licking? A few things could be at play.

Sometimes, a cat develops a new habit just because it’s comforting or rewarding.

If Biscuit has been getting extra attention when he licks, he may have learned that it’s a great way to connect with you. Stress or changes in routine can also lead to new self-soothing behaviors.

And then there’s the simplest explanation - maybe you just taste good!

Cats are drawn to salty skin, lotions, or even certain scents. If you’ve switched skincare products recently, that could be a factor.

Whatever the reason, the key is finding a way to redirect this sweet but slightly scratchy habit without making Biscuit feel rejected.

The Importance of Redirecting Gently

It’s tempting to react with a quick “no” or push a cat away when he or she starts licking, but that can send the wrong message.

Cats are sensitive creatures, and a negative reaction - especially to something rooted in affection - can make them feel confused or even hurt. You have the right idea with not wanting to hurt his feelings or your bond!

Instead, the best approach is consistency. If licking always leads to the same gentle redirection, Biscuit will eventually understand that face-licking isn’t the way to show love.

Offering an alternative, like a soft blanket to knead or a toy to nuzzle, helps guide him toward a behavior that feels just as comforting.

Patience is key here. It may take some time for Biscuit to break the habit, but with a little encouragement, he’ll find a new (and less sandpapery!) way to express his love.

How to Train a Cat to Stop Licking Your Face

Since Biscuit’s licking is coming from a place of affection, the goal isn’t to stop him from showing love - it’s to guide him toward a gentler way to do it. Here’s how you can help him transition:

1. Substitute with an Acceptable Behavior

Try offering Biscuit something else to nuzzle when he starts licking.

A soft blanket, a favorite stuffed toy, or even your sleeve can give him a comforting alternative while still letting him express his affection.

2. Use Positive Reinforcement

When Biscuit is calm and affectionate without licking, reward him with soft praise, petting, or even a treat.

The key is reinforcing the behaviors you want while avoiding accidental encouragement of the licking habit.

3. Redirect to a Different Spot

Some cats can be trained to nuzzle or groom a different area.

When Biscuit goes for your face, gently guide his head toward your hand, shoulder, or even your chest. Over time, he may start to see these areas as his new ‘grooming zone.’

4. Change Your Response

If licking always results in the same gentle but consistent reaction, Biscuit will start to get the message. Try calmly getting up or turning your face away when he starts licking.

Avoid sudden movements - just make it clear that licking isn't part of cuddle time.

5. Provide More Engaging Outlets

Sometimes, an affectionate cat just needs more ways to channel their energy! Try adding extra playtime, interactive toys, or puzzle feeders to keep Biscuit engaged.

A cozy bedtime routine - like a snuggle session or gentle brushing - can also give him the closeness he craves, helping to naturally shift his focus away from licking.

With time, patience, and consistency, Biscuit will learn that he can still be close and affectionate - without making your face his personal lollipop.

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At the heart of it, Biscuit’s face-licking is a sign of deep love and trust. While it may not be the most comfortable way for him to show affection, it’s a sweet expression of love.

With gentle redirection and a little patience, you can help him find a new way to express his love - one that’s just as meaningful, but a lot easier on your skin.

Every cat is different, and this habit of licking your face is definitely a unique way to display affection!

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